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The new family's transition process was aided by Canecchia's employer, Bank of America, which supported their adoption. In particular, the company's four months of parental leave — which applies to same-sex couples — proved immensely helpful, Canecchia said. For example, during the first months, Jonny had a particularly difficult transition, preferring to eat lunch with the school nurse and vice principal rather than his peers.
But Canecchia's parental leave allowed him to sit with Jonny at lunch and during class and introduce him to new friends. Everything from meal planning to setting up their rooms was new, and I'm thankful for the time I was given to learn.
Don't forget to visit the Patch Maplewood Facebook page here. An estimated 65, adopted children are living with same-sex or gay parents. There were , children awaiting adoption in , the U. Department of Health and Human Services stated. As the trend continues, that number will only increase, as same sex adoption and parenting becomes more and more widely accepted.
As a result, hundreds of thousands of children in this country are without permanent homes. Nearby Places. One little girl, in particular, springs to mind who had been severely sexually abused. It was agreed by all the professionals involved that she would benefit from a two-parent family, but it was also felt that she would gain from slow, cautious reintroduction to men in her life.
A lesbian couple rose to the challenge and the result was the emergence of a child with hope for the future, against all odds. In his gripe against the forthcoming Equality Act which will demand that Catholic adoption agencies consider gay couples as prospective adoptive parents , Cardinal Cormac Murphy-O'Connor has focused on the competing rights between Catholics and their personal conscience and of particular groups such as gay and lesbians.
What I'm curious to know is where he - and the two archbishops of the Church of England who are supporting him - believes the rights of children, such as this little girl, fit in?
This is a particularly important question in a climate where more than 4, children need adopting in England alone. It is also particularly important in a climate where, unlike when I was adopted, adoption legislation now rightly considers that the welfare of the child is the overriding principle. The cardinal is seeking to drive a coach and horses through this fundamental principle and, worse still, he is borrowing the language of tolerance to express an intolerant standpoint that has serious consequences for young people and their futures.
Even more worryingly, there is an uncomfortable irony to the cardinal's argument, which has wider consequences. Unless Catholic adoption agencies are exempted from having to let gay couples pass through their doors, he says they may be forced to close down rather than "act against their consciences". But if you look at the make-up of Catholic adoption agencies, which accounted for 4 per cent of the 2, UK adoptions last year, you'll often find a significant proportion of staff who are not Catholic, perhaps not even religious.
Many choose to work in these agencies because of their long and successful history with some of the hardest-to-place children. Where would such an exemption leave these staff and their consciences? I know of one Catholic adoption agency whose panel is largely unreligious. I really don't know, " the panel's non-Catholic chair - who has a reputation for overseeing highly successful placements - said to me. There's also the potential pressure that an exemption may put on local authorities, which are responsible for the vast majority of children who are adopted in this country.
I'm certain that these organisations - many of whom have worked extremely hard in recent years to stamp out any form of prejudice against any minority - would feel uncomfortable about seeking prospective adopters from agencies so at odds with their own efforts. The result would be a possible end to close working relationships that have long led to successful adoptions. After all, while the Equality Act, due to come into effect in England, Wales and Scotland in April, outlaws discrimination in the provision of goods, facilities and services on the basis of sexual orientation, no gay couple in their right mind would seek the services of a Catholic adoption agency, given the church's views on the issue of homosexuality.
As such, these agencies already had, effectively, the get-out clause they needed, with no need whatsoever to kick up such a fuss. The Prime Minister's office said this week that this is not a straightforward black and white issue, rather that it is one where there are sensitivities on all sides and that these must be respected.
But I would argue it is as clear-cut and uncomplicated as is possible. The freedom to have views against particular sexual practice is one thing in terms of worship, but quite another when you try to import it into publicly funded social services. This cannot be right in a democratic society that is striving for equality of opportunity and it certainly cannot be right when the direct result could be children having less chance of a secure, loving upbringing.
Tony Fletcher, 39, and his partner, Dave Gifford, 49, adopted John, two years, 10 months, and Paul, two years and five months, at birth.
They live in Florida. We always knew we wanted kids. It was just something, when we got together 11 years ago, that we knew we'd do in the future. We did a lot of research on various methods such as surrogacy and donor eggs, and then we started thinking about adopting from countries like Russia or China.
In the end, we decided that there were a lot of children in the States that didn't have loving families and needed them desperately, and we liked the idea of giving one of them a home. By then, we'd decided it was irrelevant whether our children were our flesh and blood. Florida is not the easiest place to adopt, so we were very fortunate. We had a private agency and we got by through my partner applying as a single person and then, later on, we signed other papers that make me the legal guardian.
It was a "don't ask, don't tell" situation. Everyone has been great about the whole thing. Now our children are both in pre-school, we still haven't really faced any difficulties. I honestly think people see us just like any other family. Nobody mentions that we're gay, and it's great to live in a town where it's so accepted.
I must admit that has been a nice surprise. You always expect to face some sort of prejudice, even though there are quite a few gay families in this neighbourhood. John is quite bright and knows he has a daddy and a papa, whereas some other kids have a mommy and a daddy. But there are two other gay couples in the school, so he doesn't feel completely alone. We tell him families come in all shapes and sizes, and we'll explain it further when he asks further questions.
To be honest, we just don't think about it that much because in 10 years, the world will probably much more accepting place - just as it's much more tolerant than a decade ago. We both have an equal hand in raising the kids. We both work, so we have a nanny and that's great for having a female role model on an everyday basis.
As for our parenting skills, it's all come really naturally. When we first adopted, people said you don't know what you're getting yourself into, but actually we find it quite easy. It's incredibly rewarding. I've heard about the debate in the UK. You have to ask whether it's better for children to stay in foster care or residential homes, when there are all these healthy families that have so much love to give.
The issue is not whether parents are single or a couple, gay or straight, but how much they have to offer to the child. Lewis Campbell, 44, and James Russell, 38, adopted Sarah not her real name , two and a half years ago. James and I never thought we'd have a family, but James's sister has all sorts of problems and decided, when she was expecting her second child, that she would put her up for adoption. We felt that that wouldn't be a very nice beginning for the child, and we just couldn't bear the thought of, later on, passing a child in the street and not knowing if it was her daughter.
And there was no good reason why we couldn't offer the child a home. One day, we decided, "Let's do it! The local authority was great about it. I think they recognised the value of keeping Sarah in her family. Also, it wasn't as if we were strangers to children. James's mother has fostered kids all her life, and I'm the youngest of nine kids in a family where there are 28 grandchildren.
Of course, we'd considered the prejudice that we might face, but we've received mainly support and good wishes. The main criticism we've faced has been from the church.
I remember when we went to get Sarah christened, some old dear was enquiring where the mother was, and when we said that Sarah was our adopted child, she made it very clear how disgusted she was. The main response we get is surprise. We went to a clothing store recently to get Sarah a dress for a friend's wedding, and the shop assistant said, "Couldn't your wife make it today? When I explained, she went really red. I always try to put people at ease in those kinds of situations.
They're not to know. Sarah is two-and-a-half now. She was only 10 weeks old when we got her, so she's known nothing else. Since she's been going to playgroup, she has asked about Mummy, and we've told her that she's not here. When she's old enough to understand, we'll tell her the truth.
James works four days a week and I work five. When we're both at work, we have a childminder. The childminder's eldest daughter asked the other day why Sarah has two dads, and the childminder explained that, just as a man and a woman can love each other and have a family, so can a man and a man, or a woman and a woman.
She was quite happy with that explanation, and I think that I will take that tack when Sarah asks more questions. More of a worry for me is how other children will be with Sarah. I do worry a bit about that they might tease her. The reason we've decided to get married in June is largely because of Sarah.
We worry that if James, who actually adopted Sarah, passed away, how would the law stand concerning me as a parent? Nobody seems to be able to give us clear answers, and marriage seemed one way of addressing that.
Also, time is trotting on and it feels the right time for us to do it. Both James and I couldn't imagine our lives without Sarah now. That's why I think the row in the headlines at the moment is disgraceful. It's bigotry in a very blatant form, and what's worse, it's from the very group of people who are meant to be loving and giving and understanding towards others.
I fostered four young children for a year. I was helping a relation of an employee, whose children had a very troubled background. The children had the same mothers, but each of them had a different father and they didn't like the children living with me.
I had, once, considered adopting. I've done lots of work with the British Association of Adoption and Fostering, and they would like me to adopt. To be honest, I'd never really planned on speaking about this, but now I am planning on looking at the whole thing again in the next two months.
I don't think I'd try to do it in the UK now, though. We live in such a paranoid environment. When I tried to foster in the UK, I wasn't even allowed to apply sun-tan lotion to the children. I had to phone my lawyers to find out whether I was allowed to do so. They said no, and I had to find a female who was staying in the same hotel to do it.
The whole experience made me think this is such a nasty, suspicious, horrible country. We've taken the rules to a wild extreme. In Spain and France, they love children, and these thoughts don't even enter into people's heads. It's a completely different attitude.
We've gone over the top. I was the product of a not easy childhood, and I was adopted myself. That's one of the reasons I wanted to do it. I'm not saying that it's perfect for a single man like me to bring up a child, or even to do so if I were in a relationship.
My personal decision would be - if I were going to adopt - that I'd want to do it as a single male. I would want to know there was an underlying framework that would never change for the child, if that makes sense.
Rather than dragging someone else into it, and for it to potentially be unstable, I'd rather do it on my own and not have a partner. I think if a child has been messed up - if they have come from a troubled background - they want to know that there are some things that cannot change any more, and that they are safe.
Whether I'm single or in a relationship, my sexuality has very little impact on my abilities as a parent. Children are very capable of understanding quickly about sexuality.
Being brought up by a gay man certainly doesn't turn children gay - quite the opposite it seems, I've never seen a gay adult who is the product of gay parents. It's weird for me seeing that the children I tried to foster are now back in the same environment as before I looked after them. They are living on estates, they will grow up in crime.
With me, they would have been privately educated, they would have had everything, and they would have been loved. They loved me. And they knew about my sexuality from day one. Only the youngest child didn't know, obviously; she wouldn't have understood what we were talking about. The other kids would joke about it. Beyond that, they genuinely loved having someone who was solid and stable and who looked after them and spent time and told them off for not cleaning their teeth.
In a really perfect world, maybe it's better for children that they are brought up by a male and female married couple. But, you know, it's not a perfect world. I will do it again. I just won't do it in the UK.
And that child will be safe, and loved, and not tampered with. I don't know what some people think gay people do, but I like blokes - not three-year-old children. David Crothers, 42, and his partner Richard Stubbings, 49, from Norwich. They are currently awaiting approval from social services to become adoptive parents.
We're quite early on in the adoption process, but so far everything is going fine. My partner, Richard, and I have been together for 20 years - it will be 21 years next month. Now that we're settled, we feel that we're in a position to take on the challenge of having a child.
So far, our friends have been hugely supportive and social services have been amazing. The Catholic Church will always have some issues, won't it? If it's not racism it's homophobia, if it's not homophobia it's something else. My concern is that no one ever sits down and thinks about the children. It's always about how it looks in society.
I find it quite disturbing that people would rather have a child in a dorm, with more than 20 children who get no personal care, than have a happy couple adopt that child. The Church needs to progress as much as the rest of society. If you're heterosexual, you can decide to have a baby, think it out and go through the natural process. As a gay couple you have to go through so much more - and it's the same for straight couples who want to adopt.
Finding the right parents, doing police checks - all that is absolutely correct for people trying to find adoptive families for children, but why should it take years? We have to go and get experience with children - the fact that we have nephews, nieces and godchildren is irrelevant - so if we have to go and read to children in a school then we'll do it.
To go through what you go through as a gay couple trying to adopt, you have to be really passionate about adopting, which is why it took us so long to decide to do it.